Thursday, August 15, 2013

"You put your whole self in..." [Life lessons from the Hokey Pokey]

We all know how it goes:  "You put your whole self in, you take your whole self out, you put your whole self in and you shake it all about..."  So what does it mean and why am I writing about it?

Well, it's been a whole year since I became a stay-at-home mom and I've been getting a little stir crazy lately.  Maybe it's the weather, or maybe it's just been a long crazy summer for us - but whatever the reason, I've been taking on project after project to occupy my time and keep my sanity over the last couple months.

Working on another project yesterday.

Don't get me wrong, being a mother is hard work.  And staying home with my 4-year-old son will keep me busy throughout the day, but I'm one of those people who thrives in a fast-paced environment.  I feel like my life is missing something if I'm not constantly working on something or trying to accomplish a goal.  I need that instant gratification that I used to get when I met a deadline, helped a client, or cleared the files in my in-tray.  It's not the same when I'm doing a project for myself.

So, I've started job hunting again.  But the thing is - I don't know what I want to do or if I even really want a job.

I was good at what I used to do, but my heart wasn't in it.  It was just something I had to do to pay the bills.  And now I find myself applying to the same kind of jobs - not because I want to, but because it's something I know I can do.

That got me thinking, "If I don't put my whole self in it, will it really be worth it if I get it?"  Would I really get the fulfillment I'm looking for by throwing myself into some job?  Or would it be better to wait it out until the opportunity that I really want is available?

There was one job that I did apply for that I really, REALLY am hoping to get.  So far, I haven't heard any word from them yet but I'm still crossing my fingers for it.  It is something entirely different from my previous career path so I know it'll be a learning experience for me.

We're not so strapped for cash right now that I need to find a job right away, but it would allow us a little more room to live comfortably.  So the question is, should I get a job I don't really care for, or should I do what makes me happy (when I figure out what that is)?  What do you think?

P.S.  Here's a couple pictures of yesterday's project, a transparent messenger bag I made for my god-daughter.  I don't have a tutorial yet because I kind of just made it up as I went along, but I'll be perfecting it and putting a tutorial together for you soon!


  1. Jessica, I like your blog and loved it on

  2. Jobs are so hard to come by these days, if i didnt have my business...i would take the first thing that i applyed and get accepted for and wait for my plan A to come along. Whatever you do, I'll support your decision. Cute DIY bag.

    Try kyä, this is my plan B for now as money goes and I'm getting money for not doing a whole lot, but when I put my whole body in, I'll be making some serious money. But yeah...this is probably not what you want to do, and that's okay. We do things for our family. Sacrifices we do til our real dreams are met.

    Good luck, Duckie! And I hope you get what you really wanted! They be crazy not to hire you!

  3. love that purse <3
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  4. Eh, if you're not hurting financially, I say do what you love =)

    I spent two years in a job I hated but it paid the bills. I left for a similar job but less hours and less stress. I'm still not doing what I love but we got bills to pay. I hope within a year or so I'll be able to cut back my hours a bit.

    I'm not sure if I could completely stop working but my dream is to be stay at home mom or work from home mom- just don't know what type of work that'd be yet =)

    Follow your heart, my dear. Life's too short.

  5. That is a cool bag you've made for her! I think that since you are able to afford living on one income right now, you should look for a job that you can be passionate about :)

  6. Hey love! It'll be one year for me October 1st. Both boys are in school all day now and I miss my little guy! Sometimes I want to go back to work cuz I get stir crazy too but I would much rather start my own business :-) Not exactly sure what that business is yet, but working on it. In the meantime, I'm just like you...project after project LOL. Do what your heart feels is right...mine is being home.


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